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The Bioskop’s love programme was inspired originally by reading Alain Badiou’s In Praise of Love … here’s part of a talk by  Slovenian philospher Slavoj Zizek where he references the book…

“I sincerely think that in contrast to [the sixties and seventies] when to fight for sexual freedom was experienced as liberating, and monogamous love was dismissed as a bourgeoise convention, I think that today more and more – love – passionate love – is emerging as something dangerous, and precisely subversive. Think about how you are addressed in your everyday life by society – what society demands of you. Its basically a kind of slightly spiritual, pseudo-buddhist hedonism. Ideology is telling you – be faithful to yourself, realize your true potentials and experiment with your life, try all different options, don’t fixate yourself on a certain stable identity. Life is dynamic and fluid, and so on, and so on. And I claim within this economy, not only is stable love, passionate love emerging as an obstacle to your authentic development, but even the crucial dimension of love is gradually disappearing.
What is love? As Alain Badiou… put it in his wonderful book In Praise of Love, there is always something dramatic, extremely violent in love. Love is a permanent emergency state. You fall in love. And its crucial that in English and in French we use this expression – to fall in love. You lose control.
Its really… I claim that love, the experience of passionate love is the most elementary metaphysical experience – it’s a Platonic experience. In the sense of… you lead your easy daily life, you meet your friends, you go to parties, whatever, everything is normal… maybe here and there a one night stand… whatever…
And then – you passionately fall in love. Everything is ruined. The entire balance of your life is lost. Everything is subordinated to this one person. I almost cannot imagine in normal daily life outside war and so on, a more violent experience than that of love.
Which is why all the advisors that we need today, are trying precisely to domesticate or erase this excess of… love. Its as if love is too poisonous and then they tell you… the trick that they try to offer you, the [on-line dating agencies] is how to find yourself in love – without falling in love. This idea came to me on a trans-atlantic flight I read one of those stupid airline journals and there was a big [advert] claiming that we can help you find love without the fall. Without this dangerous exposure.
And I think this fits perfectly with our daily narcissistic metaphysics. You know the old story that I repeat all the time – we want coffee without caffeine, we want beer without alcohol – and we want love without its dangerous moment where you get lost.”

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